家庭经营之道

2. 撰写使命宣言

    “你的孩子能说得出自己的父母最看重的价值吗？”当被问及这个问题的时候，费勒意识到，“我希望他们知道。不过实际上，我从来没有告诉过他们。”与此同时，他妻子工作的非盈利组织正处于撰写使命宣言的阶段，“她回到家里的时候几乎流着泪，因为这对她来说意义重大。”

    因此费勒和妻子以及双胞胎女儿“举行了类似于企业拓展的家庭活动。我们举办了睡衣派对，大家挤在爸爸妈妈的床上进行了这样的谈话：对我们来说，什么才是最重要的？”

    第一次听到撰写家庭使命宣言的想法时，“我认为这想法很扫兴，是老生常谈，毫无幽默感。”但是最后撰写的声明包括下面的这些想法，比如“我们热爱学习”和“允许犯错误”，让费勒一家很好地了解到他们坚持的价值观。费勒说：“现在的情况是，如果想变成理想的自己，首先得搞明白想成为什么样的人。而且研究也支持这一点”这份家庭使命宣言就揭示了他们家最理想的状态。

3. 树立远大的目标

    不需要对子女或配偶（这样做更危险）进行正式的绩效考核，也不需要让他们对你进行正式的考核。但是要在家庭生活中确立目标意识，比如随着时间流逝，大家变得越来越亲密，也可以把人们在商业世界的关注点引入到家庭生活。“它有点像我的保险杠贴纸，”费勒说。“我们有自己的工作，我们在工作上投入精力。我们有自己的爱好，我们在爱好上投入精力。我们有自己的身体，我们花功夫锻炼自己的身体。我们有自己的家庭，但我们几乎没有花时间关心家庭。这就是现实情况。”但是如果做出一点努力，“动点心思，把家庭看做组织或团队来思考问题，情况就会改观，”他说。“小举措也能产生大影响。”（财富中文网）

    译者：孟洁冰

2. Write a mission statement

    When asked the question "Can your kids say what values are most important to their parents?" Feiler realized that "I'd like to think they could. But the truth is I've never told them." Meanwhile, the nonprofit where his wife worked was going through a mission statement writing process, and "she would come home almost in tears, it was very meaningful to her."

    So Feiler, his wife, and twin girls "did the family equivalent of a corporate retreat. We held a pajama party and piled into mom and dad's bed and had this conversation: What is most important to us?"

    When he first heard of the idea of writing a family mission statement, "I thought it was cold, it was corny, it was humorless." But the resulting statement, incorporating such ideas as "We love to learn" and "We know it's okay to make mistakes," gave the Feiler family a good idea of what they stood for. "Here's the thing, and research backs this up -- you need to identify your best possible self if you want to achieve it," says Feiler. The mission statement revealed their best possible family.

3. Aim to get better

    No, you don't need to do an official performance review for your children or -- more perilously -- your spouse, and you don't need to sit through an official review they give you. But approaching family life with goals in mind, like becoming closer year after year, can transfer some of the same focus people bring to business life to home life. "This is kind of my bumper sticker," says Feiler. "We have our jobs, we work on those. We have our hobbies we work on those. We have our bodies, we work on those. We have our families -- and we spend almost no time working on them. They just are." But if you put in a little bit of effort, "and apply smart ideas for thinking about a family like a group, like a team, you can make it better," he says. "A little bit goes a long way."