换了新工作后，怎样才能尽快交上朋友？

MPW内部网络是一个在线社区，商业领域内外最具影响力的人士将在此及时回答关于职业与领导力的问题。今天我们的问题是：“怎样在新的工作岗位上交朋友？”以下是塔塔咨询服务公司全球人力资源副主管里图•阿南德的回答。

开始一份新工作往往不容易。除了工作上的种种要求，你还得试着和陌生人见面。即便是最外向的人，在新的工作场所交朋友也会很困难，甚至充满压力，特别是在为了工作而搬家的情况下。在过去几年中，很多公司在这方面做得极为出色。它们把员工聚在一起，帮助他们扩展职业和个人交际范围，支持有意义的行动并且追求公众利益。

回想起在塔塔咨询服务公司（TCS）交的第一个朋友，我意识到自己是多么幸运，能在入职后如此短的时间里就遇到了她。在入职培训期间，有人把我介绍给了雅思敏，然后我找她一起吃了午饭。这也是雅思敏的第一份工作，这一点成了我们俩之间的联系纽带。当时TCS的女员工很少（现在它的女性员工已经超过10万人），这进一步巩固了我们的友谊，也强化了我们在职场上打拼的能力。后来雅思敏离开了TCS，但我们继续保持联系。在不断升职的过程中，我们一直很亲密，而且会在应付特别棘手的问题时征询对方的意见。有时她是我的导师和顾问，为我提供答案；有时她是教练，向我提出恰当的问题，让我自己去把握方向；有时她又是咨询者，用心聆听我说的话。但最重要的是，她是一位忠诚的朋友。

虽然我俩一拍即合是运气使然，但在工作场所主动结识陌生人也很重要。

一个办法是通过女性关系网络。在许多公司，这种网络已经成为支持工作/家庭融合与进步的推动力量。大家会结识来自公司各个部门的女性，她们处在职业生涯的各个阶段。这样做会让你了解女性同事并汲取她们的智慧，同时接触到其他职能部门，建立跨部门的新友谊。

许多公司都实施了企业社会责任项目，以便为自身经营活动所在的社区提供支持。这种项目正日益成为一种普遍而丰富的资源，为人们和同事建立联系提供机会。

午间行走团、诸如Fitbit健身竞赛这类公司健身项目、兴趣俱乐部、职场父母和女性交流圈，都是结识新朋友的舒适途径。这些项目的形式和规模各异，大家要找到适合自己的那一个。

如果这些关系网络、社区服务或者公司提供的健身项目对你来说都没有吸引力，那你只需要在经过周边同事的办公桌时停一下，向他们介绍自己。在这样一个盛行短信和社交媒体的时代，这样做听起来或许很老套，但它有可能成为在工作场所建立友谊的高效方式。

另外，大家还可以制定并实施每个月结识10个（或者选择一个让自己感到舒服的数字）陌生人的计划。务必要进行多次联络，把他们加到你的领英群组里，通过介绍或者只是发短信或电子邮件的方式帮助他们建立联系。对一些人来说，交朋友并非自然而然的事，所以制定一项在特定时间与特定数量的人建立联系的计划，往往能产生绝佳的效果。一定要记住，就算直到现在还没有这样做过，什么时候付诸行动都不算晚。练习造就完美，和别人联系的次数越频繁，这件事就会变得越好，也越容易。

对某些人来说，交朋友看似令人望而却步。但有意识地抛却顾虑，全身心地投入并主动和别人接触会带来多重收获，既有个人方面的，也有工作上的。 （财富中文网）

译者：Charlie

审校：詹妮

The MPW Insiders Network is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for: “How do you make friends at a new job?” is written by by Ritu Anand, deputy head of global human resource at Tata Consultancy Services.

Starting a new job is rarely easy. In addition to all the demands of your actual job, you’re trying to meet new people. Even for the most extroverted among us, making friends in your new workplace can be challenging, even stressful – especially if you’ve relocated for your position. Over the past several years, companies have done a fantastic job of bringing employees together to help them expand their professional and personal networks, support meaningful causes, and pursue shared interests.

When I think back to the first friend I made at Tata Consultancy Services, I realize how lucky I was to meet her so early in my career. I was introduced to Yasmin during an orientation session and then sought her out at lunch. It was Yasmin’s first job, too, and that became a common bond between us. At the time, we were among only a small number of women at TCS (today there are more than 100,000 women), which only strengthened our friendship and ability to navigate our work environment. Yasmin left the organization, but we continued to stay in touch. As we have risen through the ranks we are close friends and use each other as a sounding board for dealing with particularly challenging issues. At times she has been my mentor, my advisor, giving me the answers. At other times, a coach, asking the right questions and letting me steer on my own; sometimes my counselor, lending a listening ear; and above all this, a loyal friend.

While we met and hit it off coincidentally, it’s important to also be proactive about meeting new people at work.

One way is through women’s networks, which have become a driving force in many companies supporting both work/family integration and advancement. You will meet women from all areas of your company and all stages of their careers and in so doing you will gain insights and wisdom from your female counterparts, exposure to other departments and functions and new friendships that transcend office boundaries.

Many companies have stepped up their Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) programs to support the communities in which they do business. This is an increasingly common and fertile source for building relationships with your colleagues.

Corporate-sponsored fitness programs such as lunchtime walking groups, Fitbit competitions, hobby clubs, workplace parents and women discussion circles provide a comfortable way to meet new people. These programs come in all shapes and sizes, so find the one that is right for you.

And if none of the networking, community-building, or fitness programs your company offers sounds appealing to you, you can always just stop by your office neighbor’s desk and introduce yourself. It may sounds old-fashioned in the age of texting and social media, but it can be a highly effective way to get a friendship off the ground.

You may also plan and target to meet 10 (or choose a number you are comfortable with) new people every month. Make it a point to connect multiple times, adding them to your groups on LinkedIn, helping them connect by making introductions or simply keeping in touch with a text or an email. For some, making friends doesn’t come naturally, and so chalking out a plan targeting a certain number of connections in a given time frame works wonderfully well. Do remember, even if you haven’t done it until now, it’s never too late to start. Practice makes one perfect, and the more often you connect, the better and easier it gets.

Making friends may seem daunting to some, but a conscious effort to shed your inhibitions, put yourself out there, reach out to others, can reap manifold benefits, both personally and professionally.