职场师徒关系必须避免5大误区

    4. 将导师关系视为单向的关系

    导师关系中最常见的错误想法是把它看成一种交易或单向的关系。实际上，导师也可以从自己指导的人身上学到很多。

    宝洁公司（Procter & Gamble Co.）市场营销与品牌运营副总裁乔迪•艾伦说：“我感觉，我的收获几乎与付出同样多。”艾伦喜欢和自己指导的人讨论移动科技与社交媒体的发展。“他们给了我许多能量。他们很年轻，心怀抱负，比同龄时的我掌握了更多技能。”

    5. 强行建立导师关系

    许多人容易直接要求职业偶像成为自己的导师。这是错误的做法。导师关系应该自然而然地形成。

    首先，有些人并不喜欢被人直接地要求作为导师。如果确实有必要直白地提出要求，在提出问题之前要先对对方有所了解。

    市场营销公司Hit Big的CEO妮可•洛夫托斯说：“导师关系的建立应该是自然而然发展而成的。我并不喜欢直接提出要求。”她表示自己就是通过午餐会、交流会逐渐与导师建立起关系的。

    寻找导师时，可以询问自己的熟人和同事，是否有人具备你正在寻找的行业知识、个性特点或人脉。查克瑞说：“必须主动走出去，相比直接问其他人：‘我在寻找一位导师。你有认识的吗？’对人们说：‘我想学习x、y和z。我优先考虑的条件是哪些。’更容易得到满意的答案。”

    梅尔彻同意她的观点。他说：“要广撒网。不要问：‘您愿意做我的导师吗？’你可以这样说：‘跟您见面我很高兴。与您的交流让我受益匪浅。希望在未来几个月能再次见到您。’”

    一个人在职业发展的不同时期会有不同的导师，甚至会同时有多位导师，如果你能够意识到这一点，也许可以帮助消除压力。或许一个人可以指导你如何处理工作生活平衡问题，另一个人则可能给你介绍重要的潜在客户。

    查克瑞说：“人一生不可能只有一位导师。”（财富中文网）

    译者：刘进龙/汪皓

    4. Thinking it's a one-way relationship

    One of the most common misconceptions in mentoring is that it's a transaction or a one-direction relationship. Mentors can learn a lot from the people they advise.

    "I feel like I get at least as much as I give," says Jodi Allen, a marketing and brand operations vice president at Procter & Gamble Co. who enjoys discussing developments in mobile tech and social media with people she mentors. "They give me a huge amount of energy. They're young and ambitious and so much more skilled than I was at that point in my life."

    5. Forcing the relationship

    It's tempting to rush right out and ask your professional hero to be your mentor. That would be a mistake. Such a relationship has to develop naturally.

    First of all, some people hate to be explicitly asked to be a mentor. Get to know someone before you pop the question, if indeed you need to ask outright.

    "It has to be such an organic thing that I feel uncomfortable asking," says Nicole Loftus, CEO of marketing firm Hit Big. She says her mentor relationships generally develop out of lunch meetings or conversations.

    When looking for a mentor, ask your contacts and colleagues for someone with the kind of industry expertise, personal characteristics, or connections that you're seeking. "You have to go out and be able to say to people, 'I want to learn x, y, and z and here are my priorities,' " says Zachary, "It's much easier to get a good answer from someone other than saying, 'I'm looking for a mentor, who do you know?' "

    Melcher agrees. "You have to cast a wide net," he says. "Instead of saying, 'Will you be my mentor?' you could say, 'I have really enjoyed meeting you. I've learned so much from this conversation. I'd like to reach out to you again in a few months.' "

    It may help to take the pressure off to realize that you'll have multiple mentors at different points in your career, perhaps some of them even simultaneously. One person may mentor you about your work-life balance, while another introduces you to important potential customers.

    "It's not just one mentor for life," Zachary says.