求职被拒怎么办？先问自己这几个问题

透视MPW是一个在线社区，美国商界内外的一些大咖会在这里及时分享与职场和领导力有关的问题。今天的问题是：求职失败怎么办？以下为云计算财会软件公司Xero首席人才官瑞秋·鲍威尔的回答。

找工作被拒几乎是人人都有的经历。虽然可能令人失望，甚至遭受打击，但也可以成为跳板，帮助我们未来找到更好的工作。

收到求职的“坏消息”以后，你应该做一件有点反常的事：致谢。请在得到面试结果后向面试官发一封邮件感谢对方。将怨恨化为感激，有助于将情绪转向积极，进而有利于身心健康。求职方面的互动都是你编织人际关系网、改进自我宣传、练习培养成长型思维模式的机会。你会惊讶地发现，致谢能有效地打消求职被拒导致的消极情绪。

在致谢邮件中，你应该请面试官反馈一些评价，哪些地方需要改进？面试官认为你哪方面表现得好？有时未被录取可能只是因为另一位应聘者更适合。还有些时候，也许你可以改进一下，提高下次求职的成功率。关键是避免悲观或者自我批评引起的恶性循环。要注意别被负面情绪影响，尽可能表现自己最好的一面。未来会有一些适合你的工作，你需要做的是保持乐观向上，准备好抓住机会。

接下来，你要做一次自我测评，或许你可以问自己以下问题：

• 我做了求职的准备吗？对应聘的公司、岗位和面试官有没有足够的研究？

• 我在交流中有没有表现优势？跟面试官谈起对自己有启发和鼓励的事情时，最好多介绍给公司创造的价值。

• 我有没有仔细倾听？参加面试的时候，我们往往带着一堆希望展示的资料数据。别忘了，读懂面试官透露的明示暗示。

• 我问的问题合不合适？如果你的关注点和面试官不一致，没有深入了解、解读一些内容，你与面试官的沟通可能没有多少实质意义。

求职被拒后请把自己想象成一位企业家。有多少企业家能一夜之间获得成功？少之又少。在企业经营成功以前，他们往往要想很多盈利的点子，每次失败后他们都会努力避免重蹈覆辙。你看待求职也应该这样。

产后复工期间，我曾经向一家跨国公司递了求职简历。面试期间，很明显主管经理担心我的经验高于岗位需要，他不想请一个资历过高的人。这种想法可以理解，但确实让我失望。面试失利后我消沉了一小段时间，但还是意识到这对企业、以及我自己都是最好的结果。

有时应聘成功需要天时地利人和齐备。既要看你作为求职者的态度，也要看跟用人方是否气味相投，你的竞争者情况，面试安排在一天之中的什么时间，甚至面试官见你时的心情。所有因素之中，你能控制的只有自己的心态。如果碰到一个固定思维模式的面试官，你没机会和对方探讨意料之外的话题，只能讨论你过去做过什么，并非你能做些什么。

而如果面试官有成长型思维模式，你们可以讨论其他领域，能将工作岗位的需求与自身优势联系起来。如今的商界瞬息万变，没人无所不知。只有活到老学到老，并且愿意与他人合作，才能成为最大的赢家。

找工作时都想进一家有前途的公司，愿景明确价值观强大，而且与你自己的奋斗方向比较一致。踏上求职征途之际，请拿出耐心，做好准备，坚持不懈，还要有足够的自知之明，这些会是你求职的利器。如果能做到，偶尔遭到拒绝不过是成功道路上小小的颠簸而已。（财富中文网）

翻译：Pessy

审稿：夏林

The MPW Insiders Network is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for, “How do you deal with rejection when it comes to landing a job?” is written by Rachael Powell, chief people officer at Xero.

Almost everyone has applied for a job and been rejected at some point. And while it can be a disappointment or even a shock, it can also serve as a springboard to landing a better role.

When you receive the “bad news," do something counterintuitive: Give thanks. Send a follow-up note thanking the interviewer for his or her consideration. Turn any resentment into gratitude, as it will boost your positive emotions, and in turn, your well-being. Any interaction in the job search is an opportunity to network, refine your pitch, and practice developing a growth mindset. You’ll be surprised at how well giving thanks dispels any feelings of flatness or rejection.

In your note, graciously ask for feedback. What could you have done differently? What did the interviewer feel you did well? Sometimes it may be that another candidate was simply more qualified. In other cases, there may be something you can tweak to improve your next interaction. The important thing is to avoid any downward spiral of pessimism or self-criticism. You want to get back out there and project the best possible version of yourself. There will be suitable roles around the corner, and you need to be upbeat, positive, and alert to spot them.

Next, it’s time for a self-review. Here are some questions you might ask:

• Was I prepared going in? Did I do enough research on the company, the role, and the interviewer?

• Did I communicate my strengths? You’re going to best articulate the value you can bring to a company when you’re discussing things that inspire and engage you.

• Did I listen? Too often, we go into interviews with a host of data points that we want to convey. Remember to read the verbal and nonverbal cues.

• Did I ask the right questions? If you’re on a different tangent than your interviewer, and you aren’t probing or paraphrasing some of the content, then you’re unlikely to make a human connection.

Whenever you receive a rejection, think of yourself as an entrepreneur. How many entrepreneurs are overnight successes? Very few. Quite often, they go through multiple ideas before they hit payday. And with each failure, they learn and apply lessons to their next endeavor. That’s how you want to approach your job search.

I once applied for a role with a multinational company when I returned to work after having children. Throughout the interview process, it became apparent that the manager was concerned that my experience was beyond the scope of the role, as he didn’t want to hire someone overqualified. That was understandable, albeit disappointing. Although I was rejected for the job and felt deflated for a short period, I realized it was the best outcome for the business, and ultimately for me.

Sometimes the moon and stars just have to align. It can come down to your attitude, the chemistry between the parties, the competition you’re up against, the time of day the interview is scheduled, and the interviewer’s mood just before you meet. Of all these factors, the only one you can control is your own mindset. If you enter into the conversation with a fixed mindset, you will miss opportunities to explore unexpected topics, and you will have a tendency to only discuss what you have done rather than what you can do.

With a growth mindset, on the other hand, you’re going be open to exploring other areas and will be able to link your strengths to role requirements. In this fast-paced business world, no one does know it all! It’s those who are prepared to perpetually learn and collaborate who will be the most successful.

You want to be able to see a future in an organization that has a clear purpose and a strong set of values that align well with your personal profile. Patience, preparation, and tenacity sprinkled with a large dose of self-awareness are what you should arm yourself with when you begin the search. Do this, and rejection will be no more than a brief bump on the road to success.